He really ISN'T that into you

I just finished reading He's Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. Ladies, if you are single, you need to read this book. I'd like to know where this fantastic guide was 3 years ago!!! Before I met the guys who turned out to be jerks, gay or both.

The bottom line of the book is that we deserve wonderful guys. We deserve guys who adore us, treat right and don't make us feel bad that we want something more out of life than to be someone's sex buddy/house cleaner. I know, easy for me to say. I often wonder if there really are men like that out there, and if so, why can't I meet them?

This book really spoke to me because I have wasted way to many hours of time on trying to figure out whether or not some guy likes me. I'm a great woman and yes it's utter crap that some guy hasn't snatched me up yet, but that doesn't mean I should waste my time with Mr. I Guess I'll Hang Out With You Until I Find A Girl (stripper) I REALLY want to sleep with. It's not just about sex, but why should I spend time trying to figure out the answers to: "Wait, was that a date?"or "What does it mean if he's calling me every single day and twice on Sundays?"

Why are we wasting our time? Now when I have these questions, and trust me that I do, I just ask. My friends don't understand how I can just blatantly ask a guy "Yo, are we gonna bang?" (Actually I just ask "Listen, you're acting like you want this to be more than a friendship...do you want to go out?" But the guy really is hearing "yo, are we gonna bang?")

I feel like I have to ask, and I deserve an answer. Why should I waste my time with a guy who either doesn't know what he wants, or knows that he doesn't want me but doesn't want to hurt my feelings? I am always a embarrassed and frustrated when I find out I've been wasting my time with a guy, but you know what, at the end of the day I'm also relieved that I didn't spend another minute with him if he was never going to be good for me. And you should be too.

So go on, find your Prince Charming, but don't be deterred if it turns out that he really isn't that into you.