You. Your spouse. Love.

Today I had a wonderful conversation with a coworker about weddings. She just got engaged a few weeks ago and is planning a wedding for mid May. I'm secretly jealous of her short planning period, as lately it's felt like mine is getting to be waaay too long.

We talked about how everyone seems to have an opinion. And that how your idea never matches up to the opinions. You're dealing with the "why aren't you" and "well you have to" and "I can't believe you won't" from every imaginable angle.

My friend kept saying how they're keeping their wedding small (no bridal party, no "colors", etc.) basically just a party to celebrate with their families. I am such a huge believer of this style. I'm trying for this same attitude (although I love colors and bridesmaids so those were automatic inclusions for me.)

She then asked me what I thought about chair covers. I have fairly strong opinions on items like this (I group them with favors, matching shoes and a bridal party of 30+ people.) Which means, I think they're a ginormous waste. But if that's what makes you happy, you should do it. For me, I wouldn't care if all 100 chairs were unmatched and in various states of demise. But some people can't stomach that. And that's cool. For me, the reception is about eating, talking and dancing. At no point should it enter into someone's mind "nice party, but what a shame about the chairs." Especially if it's going to add $1,000 to your expenses. Anyone who notices chair (or any other detail you don't think is important) probably is really focused on what this whole wedding gig is about:

You. Your spouse. Love.

That's it.