#61 - Worst Wedding Blogger Ever

Ugh. I know. I know. You don't have to tell me. I have fallen off the wagon yet again on my wedding blog. A variety of reasons I suppose... unrelated wedding busyness. Plans that seemed to fluctuate by the hour. Changing employment status. Worry. Depression. Anxiety. Uncooperative internet connections. Real life. I guess all those things could be blamed for my inability to update blogs on a regular basis. But they're lame excuses and I know it.

The first 5 reasons are pretty much all connected, and if you are surprised to see the words worry, anxiety or depression listed on wedding blog, then you probably have never had to plan your own wedding. Not worry or depression in the view of "holy crap I shouldn't be doing this", but more of a feeling of "does this really have to be so complicated?"

In our internet world of "tips of the day" and "dream dresses" and "30 Day Wedding Diet" spam ads, it is so easy to get overwhelmed. So easy to forget why I'm doing this thing to begin with. And wanting to do everything myself and then realizing that is insane and not the point at all.

There is two months left. Two months from now I will be married - despite whatever changes in plans occur that day. So how do I make sure the next 61 days are manageable? I need to repeat these mantras (and if you're in the midst of wedding drama yourself, you can borrow them.)

1. Stop reading blogs about other people's weddings. They are not helpful, those weddings are not and will never be MY wedding. If I need inspiration all I need to do is turn to is my future hubby.

2. My bridal party members are there to help me. And are also there to help me deal with the freeloading relatives and friends who are only there to drink my free booze.

3. This wedding is not about me. It's about the future hubby, our families, our friends, and the love we share.

4. Quit worrying about what people will think. Are we (the future hubby and I) happy with this particular detail? If yes, then everyone else can suck it.

5. This will not be the most important day in my life. There will be births, moves, vacations, and random walks to the grocery store that will be more important than this one. So relax and enjoy it. There is life after the wedding, focus on that.

So that's it folks - I promise promise promise more fun detail posts, pictures, and lets face it, the occasional rant.